Wedding Etiquette is not a rocket science: there are certain Do’s and Dont’s that you should know if you you are getting married. Do you want your special day to be truly unforgettable? If yes, then you and your partner to be need to consider the typical wedding do’s and don’ts because whether you both like it or not, there are certain things that needed to be taken into consideration to ensure the occasion is hassle free.
Keep in mind that it takes more than just good planning to pull off a beautiful and memorable wedding celebration, more so when the guest lists is more than 100 as the bigger the occasion the more you both have to be very careful. Fortunately, wedding etiquette can help minimize the potential problem by considering the dos’ and don’ts of wedding.
What Are The Do’s and Don’ts Before the Wedding Celebration For The Couple?
The following are the things couples need to keep in mind, while still at the planning stage.
When it comes to the invitation, the first thing couple needs to do is decide whether they want children on the celebration or not. If you and your fiancé prefer a solemn wedding then small noisy children is definitely a no no and to ensure that no parents bring their little ones then addressed the invitation to the parents only.
I is also helpful to indicate that there is a seating arrangement, and that confirmation of their attendance is necessary. By the way, when the invitation is RVSP and the guest did not confirm two weeks before the wedding, just call them over the phone to find out whether they are attending or not. If they have a teenager that you both wanted to invite as well, send an invitation to that kid as anyone over the age of 16 years old should get their own invitation to formal occasion.
Remember also that the invitations are the first connection to the guests, and so make sure the cards reflect the theme and the affair. Additionally, since the occasion is a special day, it is best to handwrite the names of the person invited, than using labels for a more personal touch. One more thing, do not send the invitations the day before the wedding, as invitations need to reach the invited guests 6-8 weeks before the big day, while thank you cards usually sent out not more than three months after the wedding celebration.
The rules in wedding etiquette for gifts are never to put in the invitation that you only want cash as gifts, because it is rude. The same thing with gift registry, never insert the registry list to the invitations. What couples can do instead if they are keen on having guest choose a gift from the registry is to let family and friends spread the word or if a blog or websites is available for the wedding, just add the link to the invitation for guests to find out about the gift registry on their own.
If the reception is on a restaurant or hotel, then having a seating arrangement is definitely important to keep things in order. The seating arrangement is also necessary at times, especially when on a tight budget. So, even if this part of the planning seems to be difficult, as sometimes people do not want to sit with people they barely knew, this must not be overlooked no matter how dreadful the task.
So, when arranging the seating plan, the foremost thing couples need to do is simply ensure that they do not seat fighting relatives together, unless they want them to be the center of attention. Moreover, placing a name card is no longer necessary, just keep things simple by numbering the tables and let guests find their own table with an ushers assisting them.
For example, if you plan to have your older aunts and uncles’ seat together then simply placed a reserved card on the table with their number, and let them decide whom they want seated next to them at their reserved table.
You can also seat people according to their ages or relationship, whatever you think will work well, as you, and your partner to be knows your family more than the wedding planner does. So, take into consideration the type of people seated together, as the most complaint in wedding reception is the seating arrangement.
Who pays for what is probably the most complex part of getting married, but couples sticking to the traditional wedding etiquette can prevent any problem from arising. So, what is the do’s and don’ts when it comes to the financial aspect of the wedding celebration.
Do’s for the Bride
- Reception cost (unless the couple themselves decided to shoulder the entire wedding expenses)
- Church Fees
- Groom’s Ring
- Flowers for the church, reception and bridesmaid
- Groom’s gift
- Bride’s transportation
- Bridal Party
Don’ts for the Bride
- Clergy’s fees
- Bride’s ring
- Rehearsal dinner
- Bride’s bouquet, boutonnieres and corsages
- Gifts for the groomsmen
- Bride’s gift
- Transportation for the groomsmen
- Marriage License
Do’s for the Groom
- Be at the church or the place of ceremony at least 15 minutes earlier, and make sure you are ahead of the bride as groom waits for the bride and not the other way around.
- Check if the best man is still holding the wedding ring of the bride.
- When at the reception, greet each one of your guests and if you do not want to miss out anyone, visit all the tables one by one accompanied by your new wife.
- Either tip the driver, waiter, and the maître d, personally or assign someone to handle the tipping.
- Sit back, relax, and Have a good time.
Don’ts for the Groom
- Do not just talk to your friends and relatives, as you also need to entertain and thank personally your wife’s relatives and friends that attended the wedding celebration.
- Do not engage in lengthy conversation with just one person, as you need to mingle with your other guests as well.
- Never leave your wife alone for a long time, even if it’s the last few hours of the wedding party.
- Never forget that wedding celebration is always more special for the bride, so make her feel special and beautiful on her wedding day.
- When making a speech at the reception, make sure you are not already drunk and please, keep it short.
So Is Wedding Etiquette Really Necessary?
Yes, following the proper decorum is a must not just to avoid criticism or complaints but to ensure that the wedding will go on as planned. The wedding do’s and don’ts can help in ensuring that you, your new partner, parents and guests all have a good time.